"He used me,. I suffered with him. After all I did for him

"He used me,. I suffered with him. After all I did for him

"

My dear if you did not give him your kidney, sell your father's

land or give him a loan, you did nothing.

That you drank Garri with him, is because you yourself is broke

if not, you would have prepared a better food.

That you stayed in the gutters with him is not a sacrifice

because if you had a palace , you wouldn't do that...

About using you, my dear, if it's mutual, then you shouldn't say

he used you. You both had fun and used yourselves...

The only reason why you feel hurt and left out is because you

abandoned yourself in his shadow. You lost yourself in him.

While he's staying up at night to think outside the box, while

he's setting goals and achieving it,you were counting the days,

waiting for him to blow/hammer. While he was investing in his

future, you left yours stagnant without any meaningful long

term plans.

A young guy is struggling to survive, struggling to make it but

you will come in form of girlfriend to ask him money for hair,

shoes, this that and even pad thereby spending what he's

supposed to be saving and at the end, you wailed on how he

used you, on how you suffered with him..

How??

Whenever I hear this statement;

"I suffered with him when he was broke"

what comes to this my silly mind is

"I slept with him for free when he had no money. Now that

he's supposed to be paying, he left me" . ( I know, my mind

is crazy).

My point my dearest sisters is, if you did not contribute

anything tangible either in cash, assistance or ideas, anything

that is progressive or crucial towards his success, then please

don't play victim.

Times are changing, men are no longer the only ones Winning

bread. Women are now bread winners too. So while you are

performing wife duties to a single man, please think of your

own entity.

Sex is not enough

Love is not a enough.

Have a purpose.

But what do I know? Just said my mind